Got my running shoes on
I don't get it. I had this illusion in my head that there might be some fairly normal guys still out there in the world....single ones, without some kind of major issue or hangup.
Tuesday, I went out after work to meet a guy for dinner. I was ready to fall asleep within a few minutes. I ate way more food than I wanted to, simply because I thought having food in my mouth was much easier than having to talk to someone who was on a completely different planet than me.
On Christmas Eve, a guy sent me an email and he sounded pretty good. In fact, he had many similarities to me and I was mildly hopeful that he'd keep my interest for more than a couple of seconds. But I'm wary of people now and a big ole skeptic, so I did a search on his user name and email address. Well, well! He's also on one of those webcam sites. Not just like AFF. One of those live streaming ones (I had to sign up to see his profile...part of that is downloading plugins for their specific webcam software...which I didn't do!) that has ads like, "find someone to f*** tonight". It also shows what time you were last logged on. Merry Christmas to him! He's still emailing me. I'd like to think they're from his twin brother, or something, because I like what he has to say. Pity he has the same likes as the stranger I lived with. He wants to meet next week. I think I'll give him a chance to fill me in on his hobbies, then I'll fess up that I know. We'll see. Maybe I don't have to think that far ahead...
Mr Charming sounded too good to be true. He does volunteer work, has a profile that reads very honest and down to earth - none of the usual fluff and crap. Doesn't smoke. Doesn't drink. His first email was polite and respectful. He opened up more in his second email and was emotional, once you get past the text-ese...
What u see is wot u get! Its a beautiful thing 2 b serious! Your not 2 serious. That normally means ur loyal and no what the word commitment means. Not alot of men know what commitment means. Normally commitment 4 men is in their [underwear]! I normally get the 'i'm a smartass just 2 get in a woman pants' line or 'whats the catch?' line! That hurts cause i am telling the truth and theres only 1 way 2 find that out - by meeting me!
Then he went on about all the romantic things he would do for his girl. I didn't have time to respond, coz I went out unexpectedly after that. I returned home to two messages...
Sorry if I scared u off....
Didn't mean to :)
Look, if I said anything that offended I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to be pushy :)
If I don't get a response to this message, I'll take it I stuffed up and said something that offended and I'm sorry :) I won't bother u again :)
and....
Look, if I offended, please say so, cause i am very upfront and understanding so u can say so and I don't care :)
Breeeeaaaathe!! He seems like a genuine guy, but intensity like that has a tendency to scare a girl off quick smart! Romance is nice. Smothering is not. Might have to tell him to cool his heels a bit.
Yuri was behind door #4. He's a smoker and I'm kicking myself, because if I had seen that (dunno how I missed it!) I would have told him buh-bye and left it at that. He's also into party drugs (deja vu, no?). He's tall, 28 and Russian. Last night was a bit of a "did that really happen?" kinda thing. He left me a message at midday. I responded at about 5pm. We were out having a drink together by 10pm. Surprised us both!
He lives about 10 minutes away from me in the next suburb. In another one of my knowing things without knowing how I know moments, we talked about having coffee at his place. I said, "You live in G... Drive, don't you?" I think I scared him. Anyway, I drove him back to his place (my girlfriend lives in the same street, so I wasn't too concerned). He had beer. I had coffee. My $20 is STILL safe!
You know Hugh Grant's housemate in Notting Hill? His housemate looked so much like that guy that I almost laughed out loud when I saw him.
Sitting in their lounge, I learnt that he moved out from his ex 3 weeks ago, has a girl on the side for when he wants sex, and basically gets any girl he wants when he goes to clubs, if he's interested in picking up on that particular night. Afterwards, he told me that he likes me too much to just get physical. Well, thank you...I think! I left at 2am after he'd said about 30,000 times about how surreal it all was that I was there. I was a bit 'whatever' about it, but maybe it was some Russian guy intensity thing. I do like him though. He's logical and scientific, but also showed me some stuff he wrote that's more poetic and depressing than most of the stuff I write. It was so sad I loved it! Ha!
I got these text messages when I got home...
When you left, I felt like I lost something. I know I'll see you soon, just felt empty. .... Sleep well creature of blondeness. I like you, don't break my little heart.
Honestly, as nice as it is to hear stuff like that, it's too much, too soon. I've posted the things these guys said, because I'm so surprised. I really thought it was just girls who got so full on, so quickly. I don't understand how people can present themselves in a certain way, yet leave out things like "oh, by the way, my hobbies include cyber/real sex with strangers". And party drugs? Does everyone do that, too? It makes me wonder if it's normal now. Is it?
If it is, I'm not sure I can deal with it. It's hard not to be completely untrusting and cynical. To his credit, Yuri did say (unprompted) that he has no interest in cyber crap, or porn. I actually believe him. He just loses points for sleeping with anything that walks and smoking/taking drugs.
I dunno. I just don't get it. It all certainly makes me completely disinclined to get close to anyone any time soon.
Tuesday, I went out after work to meet a guy for dinner. I was ready to fall asleep within a few minutes. I ate way more food than I wanted to, simply because I thought having food in my mouth was much easier than having to talk to someone who was on a completely different planet than me.
On Christmas Eve, a guy sent me an email and he sounded pretty good. In fact, he had many similarities to me and I was mildly hopeful that he'd keep my interest for more than a couple of seconds. But I'm wary of people now and a big ole skeptic, so I did a search on his user name and email address. Well, well! He's also on one of those webcam sites. Not just like AFF. One of those live streaming ones (I had to sign up to see his profile...part of that is downloading plugins for their specific webcam software...which I didn't do!) that has ads like, "find someone to f*** tonight". It also shows what time you were last logged on. Merry Christmas to him! He's still emailing me. I'd like to think they're from his twin brother, or something, because I like what he has to say. Pity he has the same likes as the stranger I lived with. He wants to meet next week. I think I'll give him a chance to fill me in on his hobbies, then I'll fess up that I know. We'll see. Maybe I don't have to think that far ahead...
Mr Charming sounded too good to be true. He does volunteer work, has a profile that reads very honest and down to earth - none of the usual fluff and crap. Doesn't smoke. Doesn't drink. His first email was polite and respectful. He opened up more in his second email and was emotional, once you get past the text-ese...
What u see is wot u get! Its a beautiful thing 2 b serious! Your not 2 serious. That normally means ur loyal and no what the word commitment means. Not alot of men know what commitment means. Normally commitment 4 men is in their [underwear]! I normally get the 'i'm a smartass just 2 get in a woman pants' line or 'whats the catch?' line! That hurts cause i am telling the truth and theres only 1 way 2 find that out - by meeting me!
Then he went on about all the romantic things he would do for his girl. I didn't have time to respond, coz I went out unexpectedly after that. I returned home to two messages...
Sorry if I scared u off....
Didn't mean to :)
Look, if I said anything that offended I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to be pushy :)
If I don't get a response to this message, I'll take it I stuffed up and said something that offended and I'm sorry :) I won't bother u again :)
and....
Look, if I offended, please say so, cause i am very upfront and understanding so u can say so and I don't care :)
Breeeeaaaathe!! He seems like a genuine guy, but intensity like that has a tendency to scare a girl off quick smart! Romance is nice. Smothering is not. Might have to tell him to cool his heels a bit.
Yuri was behind door #4. He's a smoker and I'm kicking myself, because if I had seen that (dunno how I missed it!) I would have told him buh-bye and left it at that. He's also into party drugs (deja vu, no?). He's tall, 28 and Russian. Last night was a bit of a "did that really happen?" kinda thing. He left me a message at midday. I responded at about 5pm. We were out having a drink together by 10pm. Surprised us both!
He lives about 10 minutes away from me in the next suburb. In another one of my knowing things without knowing how I know moments, we talked about having coffee at his place. I said, "You live in G... Drive, don't you?" I think I scared him. Anyway, I drove him back to his place (my girlfriend lives in the same street, so I wasn't too concerned). He had beer. I had coffee. My $20 is STILL safe!
You know Hugh Grant's housemate in Notting Hill? His housemate looked so much like that guy that I almost laughed out loud when I saw him.
Sitting in their lounge, I learnt that he moved out from his ex 3 weeks ago, has a girl on the side for when he wants sex, and basically gets any girl he wants when he goes to clubs, if he's interested in picking up on that particular night. Afterwards, he told me that he likes me too much to just get physical. Well, thank you...I think! I left at 2am after he'd said about 30,000 times about how surreal it all was that I was there. I was a bit 'whatever' about it, but maybe it was some Russian guy intensity thing. I do like him though. He's logical and scientific, but also showed me some stuff he wrote that's more poetic and depressing than most of the stuff I write. It was so sad I loved it! Ha!
I got these text messages when I got home...
When you left, I felt like I lost something. I know I'll see you soon, just felt empty. .... Sleep well creature of blondeness. I like you, don't break my little heart.
Honestly, as nice as it is to hear stuff like that, it's too much, too soon. I've posted the things these guys said, because I'm so surprised. I really thought it was just girls who got so full on, so quickly. I don't understand how people can present themselves in a certain way, yet leave out things like "oh, by the way, my hobbies include cyber/real sex with strangers". And party drugs? Does everyone do that, too? It makes me wonder if it's normal now. Is it?
If it is, I'm not sure I can deal with it. It's hard not to be completely untrusting and cynical. To his credit, Yuri did say (unprompted) that he has no interest in cyber crap, or porn. I actually believe him. He just loses points for sleeping with anything that walks and smoking/taking drugs.
I dunno. I just don't get it. It all certainly makes me completely disinclined to get close to anyone any time soon.
posted by E in Oz at 7:55 pm
these thoughts escaped my brain at 7:55 pm
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Um, ok your blog is totally messed up because it has put comments from me here when I left them on other posts...
Anyway, the first guy wrote "your" when he should have written "you're" - that in itself should be enough never to see him again ;)
I deleted all the old ones by the way, because they weren't relevant to this post
Hey why'd you delete your comments! My blog isn't messed up. I made two copies of the post below and took the pics off one. That killed the comments (as pointed out by you), so I swapped that post for the one I'd saved as a draft, with the photos. Then I changed the draft to this new post. So, it's the same post, but different. :-p
Make sense?
And yeah, the spelling thing irritates me.
Oh and by the way - remember, I told you, every potential date you meet online is a freak ;)
Yeah. Maybe I need to start my own dating site. normalpeopleonly.com
You'll never find anyone to take part
Sigh...my grandfather was right. I'm gonna be a spinster.... I should start wearing my hair in a bun.
And paint a sign on your wall - "Make Tea Not Love"
Of course if the text guy is dyslexic then it's not his fault - he isn't stupid or anything, just dyslexic. However that doesn't make up for writing in text. Or freaking out when you went out. And the Russian guy... hmm, maybe the thing to do these days is impress a potential girlfriend by telling her about all th sex partners you've had. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong haha...
Dude where do you find these people? Then again, I can't eally talk, considering the freaks I've dated in the past 6 months.
Soon you will reach the point I reached a few months ago - you will just accept that everyone is a freak and you're better off not even trying.
Guess you better get that hair in a bun ;)
Haha, let me know if spelling out all your conquests works with the next gal you meet.
Russian guy has already sent a text this morning. Musta made an impression. He's 28 and goes clubbing a lot. I feel old. I'll wear my hair in a bun if we catch up again.
The first guy you wrote about sounds bloody ignorant withe those last few words 'I dont care'...seriously if its one thing I cant stand with a passion is that phrase in a persons conversation....it just kills every thing! Russian sounds like a sleaze... sorry thats just my opinion, you know better. Where words are used in emailing and chat I think it makes us more critical of each and every thing said...I feel your frustration on this one...best of luck.Your hair looks great in a bun!
Well, that would take up about as much time as saying hello... unless I can include all the imaginary ones haha :)
Oh wow.... this makes me SO GLAD that I'm not in the market.
You poor thing! Hang in there, and don't HANG OUT THERE with those blechy types.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again. There are LOTS more wonderful women out there than wonderful men. It makes it really hard to find the good ones.
But I know you will. You just wait and see....
xoxo
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