No-mans land
Apparently, I'm not 'young', but I'm not 'old' either. The problem is, there's no real classification for people my age who aren't married with or without kids, or are living with a partner of some sort. This makes it difficult, I'm discovering, to find free or low cost activities with other people in a similar position as me, that don't involve alcohol, loud music and late nights in shoes that make your feet hurt.
I could join a local community group...if I were Greek, or Italian, or of arab descent.
I could join a walking group...if I were 'mature aged' (read: 55 and over), or if I had a baby and a stroller - there are lots of those!
I could join any number of interesting activities...if I didn't have to work business hours, Monday to Friday.
I found a walk I could do next Sunday, and it looks good, but I'm thinking a lone blonde is going to look somewhat odd at a mostly indigenous event.
Did you know 'young' is 13 to 24? If 'middle aged' is around 55 or so, what am I?
I've found plenty of things I can do by myself, if I choose to, but having spent a decent amount of time searching local websites, I've yet to find anything directly related to socialising with single strangers my age. Specifically, to make single female friends. I have married female friends and they're cool, but you can't call up someone with a husband and 4 kids at the last minute to just go for coffee or something. Heaven forbid you actually want to go out out. That requires planning well in advance. Kind the reason why 5 of us get together for a holiday once a year on the same weekend...booked up to a year in advance.
I'm going nuts at the moment. I have so much spare time now that I'm not in constant contact with T. I'm feeling lonely, but more than that, I'm frustrated, because I shouldn't feel so lonely. I'm trying to stay positive, finding things to do for myself, by myself, and I'm filling time as much as I can.
I am not looking for sympathy. If anything, I'm pretty annoyed that a whole age group seems to be ignored when it comes to any form of organised event or social activity in the community.
Could be a good time to dust off the soap box and write a few letters. No wonder there are people who stay for months and months on the dating sites....it's the only way to freakin' meet people these days. And that is not an option I have any interest in at all.
/end rant.
I could join a local community group...if I were Greek, or Italian, or of arab descent.
I could join a walking group...if I were 'mature aged' (read: 55 and over), or if I had a baby and a stroller - there are lots of those!
I could join any number of interesting activities...if I didn't have to work business hours, Monday to Friday.
I found a walk I could do next Sunday, and it looks good, but I'm thinking a lone blonde is going to look somewhat odd at a mostly indigenous event.
Did you know 'young' is 13 to 24? If 'middle aged' is around 55 or so, what am I?
I've found plenty of things I can do by myself, if I choose to, but having spent a decent amount of time searching local websites, I've yet to find anything directly related to socialising with single strangers my age. Specifically, to make single female friends. I have married female friends and they're cool, but you can't call up someone with a husband and 4 kids at the last minute to just go for coffee or something. Heaven forbid you actually want to go out out. That requires planning well in advance. Kind the reason why 5 of us get together for a holiday once a year on the same weekend...booked up to a year in advance.
I'm going nuts at the moment. I have so much spare time now that I'm not in constant contact with T. I'm feeling lonely, but more than that, I'm frustrated, because I shouldn't feel so lonely. I'm trying to stay positive, finding things to do for myself, by myself, and I'm filling time as much as I can.
I am not looking for sympathy. If anything, I'm pretty annoyed that a whole age group seems to be ignored when it comes to any form of organised event or social activity in the community.
Could be a good time to dust off the soap box and write a few letters. No wonder there are people who stay for months and months on the dating sites....it's the only way to freakin' meet people these days. And that is not an option I have any interest in at all.
/end rant.
posted by E in Oz at 12:10 pm
these thoughts escaped my brain at 12:10 pm
9 Comments:
I think we're "thirty-somethings". Sorry you're feeling alone, E...I bet there are lots of people who would love to hear from you. Good friends are there for the duration - even if you haven't been in touch for a while.
As far as meeting people, I recommend trying a martial art or some other kind of ongoing class. When I was training Aikido I met a whole new social circle...male and female. Hugs ((E))
Hmmm...I contemplated taking up Aikido a few years ago. That's a possibility I might look into again. :-)
You should enter politics.
And stay away from dating sites, they're full of freaks and liars.
Young is 13-24? Well shit.
I say get a dog; instant companion, plus so much more attention from guys.
SJ, me in politics? Hahaha it's bad enough working in education! :-p
Ben, I'd get a dog if I didn't think my cats would hate me for the rest of their nine lives. I have considered hanging around local parks when they have 'pet walk' events. LOL
Hmm, maybe you could put together your own little event or something? You'll probably find there are lots of singles our age who would jump at the chance to do something along the lines you're looking for. :)
Yikes, so that means I'm almost out of the "young" bracket?? That's the silliest thing I've ever heard! Anyway, you may have already run across this site, but I found it in a google search and thought it might be something up your alley.
http://www.getalife.com.au/Group.aspx?Id=880
I've found that it's kind of difficult to find new friends once your out of school no matter what your age--it took me almost 2 years to find the few close friends I've made here and soon I'll be leaving and going through the process all over again. I hope you find something!
You could be the new Jeff Kennet
If 13-24 is young........
OH LORDY.....I can't go any further than that...LOLOL
*looking for the antidepressants*
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